Yesterday was Valentine's Day, a day for celebration of love.
But doesn't love deserve to be celebrated more than just one day a year?
Maybe it is great to have at least one day a year where we give tribute to LOVE, but wouldn't it be much better if we chose to celebrate it every day instead?
I am not saying that we should give cards, chocolates or flowers every day, because that is not the only thing that love is about or the only way to express it. It is merely one of the 5 love languages to give gifts, so where does that leave the other very important 4?
The 5 Love Languages discovered by Gary Chapman are:
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
If you are eager to find yours, you can take the test right here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
However, it is worth paying attention to how they change. They are not locked, which means that your primary love language will change according to how you change and also the change of relationship. The funny thing about people is that we always want what we don't have, so it is likely that your primary love language is the one of the 5 that you feel isn't being fulfilled. If you are in a partnership/relationship, it can be a huge benefit for the both of you to do the quiz together and have a talk about it, so you can work on giving more of what you both need together. With that said, it is important to remember that we are reflecting each other all the time, and that we can't receive any kind of love that we don't have within, we simply won't be able to acknowledge its presence.
Love deserves to be felt within and extended to others every day.
Yesterday, I wrote a blog post for my forum, HOI Exclusive on the topic of love, and there is a piece of it that I feel deserves to be shared with all of you.
As a human being our primary task is to discover what love really is before we can enter it within, so we can reflect it and eventually extend it to others.
I know I have mentioned this over and over again, however, it is worth repeating to enhance our understanding of it and thus finally can become an actual embodiment.
As I was writing I kept hearing this 1990's song in my head. It is by Haddaway, released on May 8, 1993,
"What is love, baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more...."
Can love hurt? Can we hurt each other without consent?
No, not in reality. If everything is a reflection, any type of hurt or pain that we feel is only felt because we hold the feeling inside already, so the pain becomes our reflection, and we feel confirmed in our hurt.
Because love is the opposite to any pain or hurt caused by a deeper fear of something.
Love holds no judgement, it doesn't blame or place guilt.
Love doesn't need forgiveness, it understands that there is nothing to forgive - ever!
Love takes full responsibility.
Love cherishes every moment.
Love holds nothing back but shares what is to be shared, again because it holds no judgement.
Love embraces all beings and holds space for everyone no matter what.
Love seeks to understand.
Love heals all wounds, erases them completely, because they were never real in the first place, only mere illusions of hurt.
Love doesn't hurt, it couldn't.
Love is not vulnerable but open and free.
I felt guided to visit the Bible and look into the words ofJesus. Where else other than the Bible can we seek the words of Christ to know what love is?
About love, Jesus says:
"My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
"Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."
"Do to others as you would have them do to you."
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."
And lately I have been getting 17:17, and it just showed up in Proverbs, which in 17:17 says: "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity."
The question remains; do we even understand the love of Jesus?
How did Jesus love?
How he loved was through his teachings, through every connection with people from all walks of life. He held no judgement towards any being. Finally he died on the cross to release us all from sin. He gave his life so we could gain ours.
But do we even understand what this means?
But isn't his commands then completely impossible in this world?
Maybe it's not about giving our life away as in dying for someone else. Maybe it is to seek understanding no matter who we connect with. Maybe it isn't meant that literal as dying in the physical, but instead meant to be understood as using our lives learning to understand that we all come from the same place, we are all the same, because we are one in oneness, and that everything we see is a reflection of that, which means a reflection of ourselves. Learning this and going through this process will decrease the ego immensely, so ego is what dies off.
Jesus is a teaching in unconditional love and oneness. To give ourselves to each other without doubt or hesitation, without fear and worry, but to calmly and confidently walk through the Gates of Heaven (entering love) and teach the ego, master the ego, to be completely silent, or when it shows up, silence it by not giving it too much attention other than using it to locate its opposite, which is always a space in love.
Maybe 'dying on the cross' means that the ego has to die so we can live a life in peace.
Jesus was of God but also human, meaning with an ego, which he teaches us through these passages of the Bible. He showed us that he was just like us and thus that we are no different from him, meaning that we are capable of leading similar lives with just as much love/God in our lives.
The Bible tells us this through Jesus' words in the Garden of Gethsemane as well as on the cross. In the garden Jesus prayed to God three times, saying, “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will”. He was expressing fear, which comes from the ego. He knew what he had to go through and he was afraid to.
And in the 9th hour of his crucifixion, Jesus called out: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
It explains that in times of deep trouble, frustration, sadness, we go to our ego for support, even if it can't provide us with that sense of safety or support whatsoever.
A while back I was guided to replace the word God with the word Love, because it is one and the same energy, and that love is with us all the time, all we have to do is see it, and seeing comes from focus, which comes from choice. Once you make that choice, there is no opposition to its truth, because love is the only truth.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Song of Solomon 8:7: Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.
1 Corinthians 13:2: If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
1 John 4:16: And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.
Song of Solomon 8:6-7: Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the LORD.
Those who don't love have nothing`!
The more we love, the more we have - no matter if it is received by the other/others or not.
How do you love?
When we accept ourselves, when we understand that everything is a reflection of ourselves, we enter the Divine space, we connect with Source of all life, which is LOVE, and then we are living life on Earth as is it in Heaven.
If I asked you this question:
Would you want to live a life in love or a life in fear, which would you choose?
Love, of course, right?!
Great!!! Go ahead and throw yourself into the great pool of love!! You deserve it, as do we all.
Say no thank you to the ego when it presents itself with all its lies and illusions, these are only showing up to keep you away from love, and keep us away/separate from each other. And when a fear, or any re-action that stems from fear, arrives, choose to focus on its opposite, because here is what you really want; LOVE!
You are a unique expression of love and you bring peace to the world by loving yourself.
Have a beautiful day - Namaste